Many clients have told me that part of working to improve their Emotional Intelligence for work, has had unexpected benefits at home. By examining closely the objectives that these specific clients had chosen to work at, I’ve realized that, as a matter of fact, there is a strong correlation between a Good Manager and a Good Life Partner. Isn’t that a great motivational factor to invest some of your precious time to improve your competency as a boss?
Here are 7 specific skills that are transferable from your professional life to your personal one:
- Learn to be a good listener
- Do you set aside time to listen?
- Can you make the person talking to you, feel like he or she is the most important person in the world, at that moment in time?
- Do you make sure that you totally understand what the other person is trying to communicate?
- Are you able to not interrupt, stay open-minded and non-judgmental, to demonstrate your respect for the person you’re speaking with?
- Who would want of a life partner that’s never available or that doesn’t respect the other?
- Develop your sense of humour and adventure
- Do you often surprise people around you or are you very predictable?
- Do we have fun working with you?
- Are you able to show your appreciation in different fun ways?
- Who would want of a boring relationship, with someone that takes himself or herself too seriously?
- Learn to share the power
- Are you open to other people’s ideas?
- Do you seek their opinion?
- Do you easily choose their proposition?
- Do you trust people?
- Can they trust you?
- How to you react to opposition?
- Are you a good colleague? As a member of a couple or a family, you have to know the basic rules for a good working team.
- Who would want of a life partner that takes all the decisions, without any consultation and without taking the other person’s preferences into consideration?
- Be interested in others, learn more about them
- Do you tend to respect the personality of others around you?
- Do you know about the dreams and aspirations of the people you work with?
- Do you know how you could assist them in achieving their goal?
- Are you able to pick up on a change of mood in one of your peers?
- Who want of a partner that couldn’t care less?
- Learn to better communicate
- Can you calmly express what you feel?
- Do you make sure that you were clear in doing so?
- Who would want of a partner that keeps everything bottled up or that explodes without warning?
- Encourage people, see the potential
- Can you easily identify the strengths in others, or are you better at noticing their flaws?
- Is it normal for you to celebrate successes?
- Are you a positive person to be around?
- After a discussion with you, does a person come out being confident and full of energy?
- Who would want to share their life with a negative person that can only see the possibility of failure?
- Have goals, be ambitious
- Are you constantly trying to improve?
- Do you have a plan for the next few years?
- Who would want a lifeless partner, with no energy or enthusiasm?
Aren’t the similarities surprising? So you’re getting double the benefit from working with me! Great deal!
Which aspect should you work on first? One step at a time, with a lot practice, and with the support of a good coach, you’ll be surprised how you could improve your relationships. And no, you’re not too old to change!
What do you think? Would you add something to the list? Please let me know in the Comment section below.